Choosing funeral songs? Take a read of our top suggestions...
Since we opened Ruby Funerals in 2009, we have heard so many different songs chosen to be included in each service; some raise a smile, some cause us to shed a tear - each one is perfectly suited to the celebration of life for that person. There is absolutely no right or wrong option, we have heard it all: from naughty lyrics in Irish limericks, to heavy rock metal.
We know how challenging and overwhelming it can be to pick ‘the perfect song’ so have pulled together this list to give you a bit of inspiration and maybe prompt you to think of that perfect choice for the service you are planning.
How many should I choose?
Most people select three pieces of music, although there are no rules on this. They generally choose:
- a piece to accompany the entrance,
- a reflection piece which is usually played following the eulogy so people can spend some time just remembering that person and reflecting on their own private memories,
- and finally the exit music. This is the piece that will be ringing in your ears as you leave the chapel, so if you are trying to aim towards more of a ‘celebration’ of life, it may be useful to go for a more uplifting or upbeat piece of music.
Poignant, moving funeral songs
The songs included here have featured in many services we have overseen in the past ten years. Beautifully summing up endless love, these rousing ballads with emotional, heartrending lyrics remind us that people stay forever in our hearts and the love continues forever.
- Angels - Robbie Williams
- Time To Say Goodbye - Andrea Bocelli and Sarah Brightman
- My Heart Will Go On - Celine Dion
- Over The Rainbow - Eva Cassidy
- How Long Will I Love You - Ellie Goulding
- We’ll Meet Again - Dame Vera Lynn
- Tears In Heaven - Eric Clapton
Uplifting funeral songs
As more and more services become celebrations of life, we are seeing a growing number of songs that make the congregation smile as they take a moment to think about the person they are there to honour.
- Always Look On The Bright Side Of Life - Monty Python
- What A Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong
- Bring Me Sunshine - Morecambe and Wise
- Match Of The Day theme tune
- My Way - Frank Sinatra
- I’ve Had The Time Of My Life - Jennifer Warnes and Bill Medley
Songs particularly for parents
You will know which one of these is right for you because the lyrics will touch you and make you feel as though it is the perfect words to remind you of your mother or father.
- Mama - Spice Girls
- You Raise Me Up - Josh Groban
- My Father’s Eyes - Eric Clapton
- Dance With My Father - Luther Vandross
Including hymns in the service
To some, a funeral just doesn’t feel right without a hymn. If the service you are planning is non or semi religious, but you really would like a certain hymn - perhaps consider having a version on CD to be played, so that people can listen to a classical artist or choir rather than try and sing along. We are experiencing more and more services choosing this option, given that the organist fee can be quite expensive, amongst other reasons.
Things to think about to inspire you
If you are still struggling to choose the right song, have a think about these questions, and see whether a song stands out as being the right one:
- What was the wedding first dance of the person being celebrated?
- Did they have a particular artist that they listened to? Do they have any suitable songs?
- Is there one song that person was always singing or particularly loved the lyrics to?
- If the person has already lost their partner, what song was played at the partner’s funeral?
We hope this has helped make your decision that little bit easier. As always, please do get in touch if we can answer any questions you may have. We are always here to help.
Kate and Michelle x
Service at Holy Trinity
Our annual Candlelight Remembrance Service will be held at Holy Trinity on Thursday 20th December at 7pm. All welcome, please contact us for further details.
Some of the team attended the Dine with Davina event in Southampton to raise money for Action Medical Research. A Lovely time was had, whilst raising money for a fantastic charity...and we got to meet the lady herself!
Ruby Funerals win Best Newcomer at the Funeral planner of the year awards 2018 and we had an official photo shoot to celebrate our success.
MacMillan Coffee Morning
Ruby Funerals (both branches) raised £275.36 - A big thank you for everyone that supported the annual event!
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Ruby Funerals are proud to have signed the fair funerals pledge. With funeral poverty having risen 50% in just three years, we believe it's of key importance that the bereaved have access to open information and prices on funeral directors' websites. We believe in being open and transparent about our prices by displaying them online, to help people in bereavement make informed financial choices and to help avoid the pitfall of funeral poverty. We are currently the only Funeral Directors in Gosport to have signed the pledge.
Women in Business Award Nomination
We are delighted to have been nominated for a Women in Business Award 2016. Our nominator said "They run a very successful Funeral Directors...they decided that the Funeral industry was a very man strong hold business and they wanted to have a different approach. They go above and beyond in order to provide comfort to those in need, sacrificing much in their own personal life and I think they should be commended"
Our new range of jewellery
Our new range of jewellery beads, which contain your loved ones ashes. Available in a variety of colours (price inc VAT & delivery £87.00). Order direct through us, or via Scattering-ashes.co.uk.
We've won an award
Our annual candlelight christmas memorial service was as successful as ever and we would like to thank everyone who braved the rain to come along. We also raised nearly £300 for Alzheimer's Society in memory of Mo's mum Jean.
Thank you to everyone who attended our candlelight memorial service on December the 11th.
We held another successful Macmillan coffee morning and raised £200 for Macmillan Cancer Support, which will go to help fund local services. This year we had a great magician -Matt Blossom, who kindly gave up his time for free to help entertain those that had purchased a tea, coffee or cake (mattblossom.com) Thanks also goes to many of our old customers who came to support us, anyone who donated, and our bearer Andy who bought a classic car which had built! Thanks also to our helpers Kay Camp, Ann Wilson and Veronica Holloway who assisted us to make it a successful event.
We are pleased to announce the birth of little Harry Andrew Ware. He was born on Friday 29th August weighing 9lb 2ozs. Congratulations to Katy and Andrew! Katy will be visiting with the newest member of our family over the coming months.
Introducing a new range of wooden urns and keepsakes. These quality products can be engraved and are an alternative to the traditional metal urns. The Tribute keepsake starts at £45.
We are please to introduce our trainee funeral director Layla Alderson. Layla joined us in February to replace Leigh Bonell, who has left for pastures new. We wish Leigh all the best for the future.
Michelle is pleased to introduce baby Caleb, born on 28th September weighing 6lb 14oz....and for the very observant amongst you, the baby girl turned out to be a BOY!!! Mother and baby both healthy.
RUBY FUNERALS warmly invites you to there annual Big Macmillan Coffee Morning on Friday 27th September 11am-1pm. All money raised will go to Macmillan Cancer Support. Any enquiries please call 023 92501128.
All welcome, please contact us for further details.
We supported harbour cancer's annual candlelight memorial service, which this year was held at holy trinity church, gosport. £165.39 was raised on the evening - all of which goes direct to this very worthy local charity. It was good to see a lot of our past families there too.
We hosted a coffee morning in aid of 'Macmillan Cancer Support' and raised £124.00. Thanks to everyone who supported us, special thanks to Willow the owl who helped us to grab people's attention as they were passing!
Coffee and catch up with some of our old customers. They joined us for a cuppa and catch up and helped us to discuss the possibility of us running our own bereavement support group.
We launched a new range of products for people to keep a token amount ashes. These are proving very popular and come in a range of different prices. Kate's personal favourite is doodles the bear, whilst I really love the silver heart, which i feel is very well priced at £25
Remembrance Day – We have decorated our window to mark Remembrance Day and to honour all those brave people who have fallen.
Supported St Vincent’s College - by having Health and Social Care student Natasha Laverton with us for a week. Natasha has been helping to arrange a memorial service that will be held in December for anyone who has lost a baby or child. More details to follow....
Breast Cancer Awareness month – As a subject which is close to all women (and in particular kate and her family) we were proud to raise money by doing a ‘Guess what’s next on the washing line’ game. Thanks to everyone who called in and had a go.
Revolution – We supported a local amateur dramatics group. Local poet Bill Slavin encouraged us to attend and support him. The team enjoyed catching up with him for an after show drink.
Bella – Kate is proud to show off her new arrival Bella the puppy, who is the newest addition to the Ruby family.
Harbour Cancer Light a Light – We once again supported Harbour Cancer with their memorial service, which was held at the bus station in Gosport. It was an emotional affair for everyone in attendance and it was a good opportunity for us to catch up with some of our old families and see how they are progressing.
Sasha – We are pleased to announce the birth of baby Edward! So well done to all of you who had guessed she was having a boy!
New member of the team – Welcome to Leigh Bonell who has joined the team on a part time basis.
Renovations – We are pleased to announce that all of the renovations to the Stoke Road branch have been completed. We have added in a new private seating area for families that are visiting to use the Chapel of Rest, as well as adding climate control to the reception area.
Newtown Primary Careers Event – We supported a local careers event for primary school children and helped them to learn more about different industries. We were keen to play a little on gender stereotyping (not looking like your traditional ‘male’ funeral director), but Michelle was a little surprised when one of the children thought she might actually be a lollypop lady!
Marie Curie Month – we are selling the yellow daffodil to mark the work of Marie Curie, which tries to support those who wish to die at home to do so. Please call in and support this very worthwhile charity.
Feature in Solent Life – We were delighted to be approached by Solent Life magazine, who wanted to do an article about us after reading some of our press coverage. We had a wonderful chat with the reporter David and he has become a regular visitor to our shop. It is a wonderful article which we will be proudly displaying in the shop.
Gosport Business awards – We found out today that we have been nominated as a finalist in the Gosport Borough Council Business Awards, for Customer Service Excellence. We will find out if we have won at the Awards Presentation Evening at the Alverbank Hotel on the 25th of November, but we are looking forward the opportunity to get dressed up! Fingers crossed and thank you to all of the families that supported our application.
Presentation Evening –We were piped at the post by Langdale Care home for 1st place, but did come a close 2nd and have been given a special commendation award to mark our achievements since opening. Congratulations to all the other winners on the evening, it was a great opportunity to celebrate our 1st year in business.
Fountain of light – Ruby Funerals staff were proud to support the Harbour Cancer Support ‘Fountain of Light’ memorial service. We felt that with our qualifications and experience working with the bereaved would be valued, but we also wanted to go in memory of Hannah, Suzy, and Thelma.
Macmillan coffee morning – We held our Macmillan Coffee Morning, as part of the ‘World’s Biggest Coffee Morning’ event. This was to raise awareness (and money) for a fantastic and much valued charity. The money we raised will be used to support local causes.
Stoke Road Logo Competition – We attended the Stoke Road logo competition, as part of our involvement in the Stoke Road traders Group. Michelle was surprised to find herself the compare for the event! Congratulations to all the 7-11 year olds who entered the event, some of the entries were amazing.
Service with a smile.We were surprised to find out today that we had appeared in the Portsmouth News Community Awards for ‘Service with a Smile’, for the fundraising that we did in memory of Siobhan St Lawrence to help St Francis Special school in Fareham to raise money for an outside classroom area.
Open day –We are having an open day on Saturday 22nd May 2010 as part of our drive to raise money for St Francis Special School, Fareham. There will be tea, Coffee and homemade cakes. We are also trying to increase awareness of the Governments ‘End of life planning strategy’ and will have a selection of alternative coffins, and other funeral related products for you to view.
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Sunflower appeal –In conjunction with the family of Siobhan St Lawrence we have today launched a Sunflower appeal to raise money for St Francis Special School to enable them to build an outside classroom in her memory. Please support the appeal by calling into the Stoke Road branch and purchasing a sunflower for £2.50 – with all proceeds going to the appeal. All you have to do is grow your sunflower and send in your final measurement by the end of August.